School


Yes, believe it or not I am still alive!!!!!

Huge apologies to all those who have been concerned and even sent me emails – thanks too by the way 🙂

Life has been a total bitch since the end of January and doesn’t show signs of letting up till 21st March!!! *sigh*

My dad’s home finally!  Six months in hospital all up.  Had a minor heart attack, pneumonia and bleeding into his catheter during February but all good now thank god!!

‘Mama’s happy’ didn’t last long.  He’s been a horror ever since.  Three adults to restrain him when he totally lost the plot 2 weeks ago.  Suffice it to say I have been spending time at their school with many more days to come.  😦

Madly trying to finish all my school work by 21st March so I can still graduate in April.  Thankfully they approved my request for an extension until then.  Then I can sit my oral (hehehe) exam…….OK, out of the gutter 🙂

Thank you to all those who have given me my first lot of blogging bling – I will be over to collect it asap I promise.  Stay well until I return – god am I going to have some major reading to do when I’m back on board properly……………

Love Anita xox

The morning started off like your typical morning, trying to get kids to school on time after school holidays…………….running late!!

My little blonde haired, blue eyed cherub (DS2), first day of school decides……today is the day he’s not getting out of bed at the normal crack of dawn.  Nooooo sireeeee.  I could hear him thinking, she’s going to have to work for this one!  I’m going to make her pull her hair out by staying in bed till 8am because it’s my first day of school and she won’t yell at me coz if I get upset, the day is a hell of a lot more likely to be realllllly baaaadd!!  I don’t care if we have to leave the house in 25 minutes, it’s my first day and we’re moving at my pace!!

DS1 is nearly ready even though he’s unwell, coughing and spluttering (only going to school because it’s his little brothers first day – does that make me a bad mum?).  Then I get the muuuuuuuum call.  “There’s a spider in my room!”  Great.  Now I’ve got to spend time trying to ‘find’ (normally no bigger than a bee’s dick) said spider before he’ll leave his room!!  It wasn’t hard.  Right above the door, size of your palm, angry!  I hate spiders…..with a passion……until the end of time.  Hubby away.  Crap!  Only thing to use is outdoor surface spray.  Persuade child through doorway with chocolate (thank god they’re like me!) and turn.that.sucker.white!

Finally leave home (at 8:45am – 10 minutes till 1st bell – 15 minute drive to school – not happy Jan!) and the sky opens up.  Neither child copes with rain (it hurts their heads – don’t know how they stand the shower but not my sensory issue so who am I to quibble!) which means the ‘packhorse’ will be left to carry school bags and 2 boxes (yes, boxes) of books at the other end 😦

Thunder and lightening hits as we enter school.  Not a problem for us…..BUT…….the four legged child at home will force her way through (yes through) the fence and be God knows where by the time I get back.  I know I digress, but feel I need to explain…….Our St Bernard is shit scared of thunder storms, fireworks, blasting from the quarry and basically anything else that goes bang.  If we are home she comes inside so she’s not in it, because she will do anything to get out – and.I.mean.anything!  She moves huge volcanic rocks like they’re pebbles, has forced her way through Rio wire, will dig a well to go under the fence and even used her teeth to break the normal wire last time.  Her last breakout just before Christmas cost us $365 (first time eva in the pound, caught kennel cough, and the council fine has just arrived)!!  Suffice it to say, I was not exactly happy about the prospect of driving the streets to look for her – again!

Where was I??  Oh yeah.  Get the boys into school and finally breathe!!  Three hours sleep.  Didn’t lose my cool.  Everyone alive (till I find the dog) and they seem okay.

Pick-up for my little baby was at 1pm and his smile was priceless.  It was one of those, I’ve been good and I know you’re going to be happy with me kinda smiles.

Pick-up for my big baby was 3:25pm and his smile made my heart soar.  Didn’t get to speak to his teacher this morning, or find out who his aide is for the year, but he had a great day with no problems.  So basically…………

………….it’s a THUMBS UP all round 🙂

PS I found the dog – hubby wants to sell her to highest asian bidder……

……….and I’m shit scared 😦

As you probably all know by now both my sons have Aspergers Syndrome (or aspie as we like to use in my house – sometimes even faspie (under my breath, honest) if they’re being particularly annoying!).  My oldest has had a totally brilliant first two years at school, excelling in all the areas we thought he would.  His ‘stressful’ times generally revolve around communication and social situations which is fairly normal for these kids.  My youngest on the other hand is a completely different story!!

We are expecting all sorts of problems there – inside the classroom AND in the playground.  People so often say “really? Both of them? But they are sooo different!”  Well durrrrr – they’re not the same person are they!!!  Even twins have differences!!

His list of ‘stressful’ times is a hell of a lot longer than his brothers, and he has the added bonus of a severe language disorder, along with bowel issues which all fuel the behaviour problems!!  The short of it is – they.are.not.going.to.know.what.hit.them!  Two hours of orientation last year was going really well until the last 10 minutes when a kid brushed past him to sit on the mat (soft pressure on his body hurts him) which ended with my little darlin kicking this kid in the head!  Would you want your child playing with mine??

His aide seems nice BUT old school.  I would love to have been able to have one of the young male aides BUT my baby needs really firm hugs to help him calm down and it’s not fair to put that expectation on a male when they have to be sooo careful with those sorts of things these days.  He won’t do number 2’s anywhere but home (quite a few of these kids are like that) which means his behaviour (kicking, screaming, hitting, punching etc with no preference for his target) will escalate throughout the day……………

So basically I’m playing a waiting game.  Waiting to see how things go.  Waiting to see if they’ll be able to cope with him.  Waiting to see if I can go to work once I’m qualified or will I need to spend time at the school.  Waiting, waiting, waiting……..

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest – I feel a teensy weensy bit better now 🙂

to 2007! What a year it’s been. Where does one start – oh I know, I’ll do my 1st ever ‘Christmas’ letter……..

Dear Friends,

The beginning of 2007 saw some major changes about to occur in Boneblower’s World. DH back to work, nothing new there. DS1 starting Grade 1 (2nd year of primary school in Victoria) and DS2 doing a 2nd year of 4yo kinder, 4th year of Early Intervention, 1 day at Childcare and both boys in Speech Therapy. Me, I was about to become a full time student and wasn’t quite sure how the hell everything was going to work.

Everything got under way really well with yours truly having the only real hiccup – how on earth was I going to live in two completely different worlds at the same time? Student vs. wife, mother, daughter, friend, support group facilitator, committee member…………………. OMG – what have I done!!??

Initially I wanted to chuck everything else on the backburner and concentrate on my studies, especially when DH was telling me this was the year to be selfish – words I’m sure he’s sorry ever left his mouth. The content of my dipolma was experential – meaning we got to ‘experience’ most of what we were learning. Lessons about self came fast and furious with not a lot of breathing space in between.

Before I knew it we were in Term 2 and then Term 3 – for them! My course went straight through with 4 weeks off in August which proved to be brilliant timing.  We got one of those 4:30am phone calls on Friday 31st August telling me to get to Monash Hospital as soon as possible to hopefully see my dad for maybe the last time. Thank god for auto pilot when it came to driving that morning! He had a tear in his aorta which needed to be operated on immediately if he had any chance of surviving and even then they weren’t giving us any promises.

After 12 hours on the operating table he was in a drug induced coma for 6 days – they were having trouble bringing him round coz his blood pressure kept going through the roof everytime they tried. Eventually they managed it and a week after that we found out he’s a paraplegic from loss of blood flow to his spine during the surgery.  He’s currently still in a rehab hospital doing well and looking forward to going home when the reno’s at home are completed. He’s in nappies and been told he’ll never walk again but he’s not letting that stop him from trying.

I’ve found it a little harder to concentrate on my studies since then and have quite a few (6) assignments to complete before the end of January. DS1 received an excellent school report for the year and DS2 is ecstatic about starting school in the new year. DH has completed half of his course in Cisco networking and done really well. He has been a god sent this year.

Reflecting back on the year has been hard – remembering all that’s happened (must be getting old), but I suppose the important things are listed. I know I could not have accomplished anything this year without my husbands love, guidance, patience, support and tremendous help.  The highs have been fabulous, the lows have been shit and the somewhere-in-between – where we spent most of our time, has been bearable thank goodness.

Love and best wishes to you and yours,

Boneblower

It seems like a good time of the year to have a look at things that have happened to affect Boneblower’s World over the last 12 months. So in no particular order here we go:

  1. Became a full time student in March.
  2. DS1 went into before & after school care for 3 days a week & coped really well.
  3. DS2 was looked after by one of my girlfriends Tues & Thurs (after kinder) while I was at school. Don’t ‘ohhhh, isn’t she nice’, we paid her and she slept most afternoons!
  4. DH embarked on his own course in the 2nd half of the year (whilst holding down a f/t & permanent casual job).
  5. DS2 had a partial severe language disorder added to his Aspergers, Asthma, bowel & behaviour issues.
  6. We managed to coordinate the household to cope with the changes without totally losing our minds.
  7. The dog seems to have finally got over her need to escape during a storm after she spent a night in the pound and got kennel cough!
  8. On 18th April 2008 I become a fully qualified Transpersonal Art Therapist (counselling thru art). I know, it doesn’t really belong in the achievements for 2007 but it is what I’ve been doing allllllll year!
  9. With the massive extra expenses of studying – we still survived the year. Massive feat!!
  10. We’re all a year older, supposedly wiser and ready to hibernate – oh to be a bear.

All in all a busy year that we managed to get through without killing each other! I wonder what 2008 holds in store for us…………….can’t wait for that one – help!!