Aspergers


Yes, believe it or not I am still alive!!!!!

Huge apologies to all those who have been concerned and even sent me emails – thanks too by the way 🙂

Life has been a total bitch since the end of January and doesn’t show signs of letting up till 21st March!!! *sigh*

My dad’s home finally!  Six months in hospital all up.  Had a minor heart attack, pneumonia and bleeding into his catheter during February but all good now thank god!!

‘Mama’s happy’ didn’t last long.  He’s been a horror ever since.  Three adults to restrain him when he totally lost the plot 2 weeks ago.  Suffice it to say I have been spending time at their school with many more days to come.  😦

Madly trying to finish all my school work by 21st March so I can still graduate in April.  Thankfully they approved my request for an extension until then.  Then I can sit my oral (hehehe) exam…….OK, out of the gutter 🙂

Thank you to all those who have given me my first lot of blogging bling – I will be over to collect it asap I promise.  Stay well until I return – god am I going to have some major reading to do when I’m back on board properly……………

Love Anita xox

……….and I’m shit scared 😦

As you probably all know by now both my sons have Aspergers Syndrome (or aspie as we like to use in my house – sometimes even faspie (under my breath, honest) if they’re being particularly annoying!).  My oldest has had a totally brilliant first two years at school, excelling in all the areas we thought he would.  His ‘stressful’ times generally revolve around communication and social situations which is fairly normal for these kids.  My youngest on the other hand is a completely different story!!

We are expecting all sorts of problems there – inside the classroom AND in the playground.  People so often say “really? Both of them? But they are sooo different!”  Well durrrrr – they’re not the same person are they!!!  Even twins have differences!!

His list of ‘stressful’ times is a hell of a lot longer than his brothers, and he has the added bonus of a severe language disorder, along with bowel issues which all fuel the behaviour problems!!  The short of it is – they.are.not.going.to.know.what.hit.them!  Two hours of orientation last year was going really well until the last 10 minutes when a kid brushed past him to sit on the mat (soft pressure on his body hurts him) which ended with my little darlin kicking this kid in the head!  Would you want your child playing with mine??

His aide seems nice BUT old school.  I would love to have been able to have one of the young male aides BUT my baby needs really firm hugs to help him calm down and it’s not fair to put that expectation on a male when they have to be sooo careful with those sorts of things these days.  He won’t do number 2’s anywhere but home (quite a few of these kids are like that) which means his behaviour (kicking, screaming, hitting, punching etc with no preference for his target) will escalate throughout the day……………

So basically I’m playing a waiting game.  Waiting to see how things go.  Waiting to see if they’ll be able to cope with him.  Waiting to see if I can go to work once I’m qualified or will I need to spend time at the school.  Waiting, waiting, waiting……..

Thanks for letting me get this off my chest – I feel a teensy weensy bit better now 🙂

I’m going to start by saying I know it’s a terrible language to grasp what with all the different spellings for the same word………..there, their, they’re, I know, it’s hard *sigh*

BUT

Use a damn dictionary!!!

If you are not sure, look it up!  They even show you how to pronounce a word properly, which helps people know what the hell you’re talking about!

Use a thesaurus to say the same thing twice without using the same word if you want to!

Get creative………….but not.too.creative…………..unless it’s funny

For example, ‘this one time, at band camp’………..sorry, only kidding 🙂

For example: the word Aspergers.  I have heard this word said in so many different ways.  The word is Aspergers people.  Not Asbergers or Asberjers or Asperjers!?!  It’s Aspergers spelt and As-per-gers pronounced!  Look it up people – you’ll see I’m right 🙂

Now – in saying this, I am not trying to piss people off (unless they choose to take it that way which I am by no means responsible for – because that is not my intention BUT we all have freedom of choice, so you choose which way you want to take it!).  I am merely educating society on this injustice and correcting the problem.  I know so many of us don’t like to ‘label’ people (especially children – even though it gets them the help they need and I’d be the first to throw a party if it gets taken away later), but if we are going to participate in a society that loves putting people in ‘little boxes’ (I can feel a song coming on), we need to pronounce and/or spell those labels correctly!

OK, I’m jumping down off my soapbox now and making room for someone else to have their say……… 🙂

I know I’m being totally ungrateful…………..but……………..they’re coming home a day early!!  😦

What’s with that?!?

I don’t care if they miss me and want to come home! *not*  I don’t care if hubby’s got things he wants to do at home!  I don’t care if I’ve been extremely lucky to have five and a half days to myself!  I don’t care if I’m being ungrateful and slightly aspie!  They were due home Wednesday!!  I’m. Not. Ready.

Jan and Murphy need to bugger off somewhere together and leave us all alone!

Now I feel like my planned evening of junk food and DVD’s with another one of my besties is the last bloody supper!

Sure, I love them.  Sure, I’ve missed them (kinda, sorta).  But this was my one time alone for the whole year and they’re not. meant. to. be. coming. home. early.  Hubby’s going to Cairns (Queensland) for his birthday in June, on his own, to do whateva he wants and I’m absolutely positive he won’t be coming home early then!

I can see a major consoling session of chocolate coming on…………………..*sigh*

OK, some of you are a bit concerned by my nickname. You’re finding it hard to get your minds out of the gutter and see me for what I am – a TROMBONE playing gal 🙂

Soooooo…………………….I’m coming clean!!!!!

Hi, my name is Anita (known as A over Kelley’s way).  I have 2 boys (both with Aspergers), a wonderful husband (also unofficially ‘married’ to Kelley) and a St. Bernard dog.  I have nearly completed my diploma in Transpersonal Art Therapy which means I will be a qualified counsellor, trained to use different creative/artistic mediums to help people. I have an administration background, some advertising experience and an avid interest in the Autism world for obvious reasons. I can play the Trombone, Flute, Alto Sax and basic keyboard. I no longer play in any bands, but love music just as much as I ever did.

So there you go – how the hell am I going to write my 100 Things post now????? 🙂

I guess I better come clean over at Aussie Bloggers too so people stop avoiding eye contact while slowly backing away………..

OK, who’s got it??? I’ve searched the house from top to bottom. I’ve looked everywhere! I’ve asked my friends and not one of them has seen it! I’ve checked the garden, the rubbish bins, the boys room, my self help books and even asked the dog! I’m desperate and I can’t function without it so I’m asking you guys if any of you have seen my Mo-Jo????

Life without it has become unbearably difficult. All the things I was coping with are starting to wear me down. I’ve. Got. To. Find. It.

I can’t control my anxiety over DH’s health issues, dad, my stepfather (waiting on results from bone scans for bone cancer), muti’s health issues, major concerns with DS2 and everything that’s going on with him, trying to get my assignments completed to sit my exam and finding my house without my Mo-Jo 😦

So if any of you beautiful people have seen it or have some suggestions on where else I can look, please contact me – I will be eternally grateful xox