……….and I’m shit scared 😦
As you probably all know by now both my sons have Aspergers Syndrome (or aspie as we like to use in my house – sometimes even faspie (under my breath, honest) if they’re being particularly annoying!). My oldest has had a totally brilliant first two years at school, excelling in all the areas we thought he would. His ‘stressful’ times generally revolve around communication and social situations which is fairly normal for these kids. My youngest on the other hand is a completely different story!!
We are expecting all sorts of problems there – inside the classroom AND in the playground. People so often say “really? Both of them? But they are sooo different!” Well durrrrr – they’re not the same person are they!!! Even twins have differences!!
His list of ‘stressful’ times is a hell of a lot longer than his brothers, and he has the added bonus of a severe language disorder, along with bowel issues which all fuel the behaviour problems!! The short of it is – they.are.not.going.to.know.what.hit.them! Two hours of orientation last year was going really well until the last 10 minutes when a kid brushed past him to sit on the mat (soft pressure on his body hurts him) which ended with my little darlin kicking this kid in the head! Would you want your child playing with mine??
His aide seems nice BUT old school. I would love to have been able to have one of the young male aides BUT my baby needs really firm hugs to help him calm down and it’s not fair to put that expectation on a male when they have to be sooo careful with those sorts of things these days. He won’t do number 2’s anywhere but home (quite a few of these kids are like that) which means his behaviour (kicking, screaming, hitting, punching etc with no preference for his target) will escalate throughout the day……………
So basically I’m playing a waiting game. Waiting to see how things go. Waiting to see if they’ll be able to cope with him. Waiting to see if I can go to work once I’m qualified or will I need to spend time at the school. Waiting, waiting, waiting……..
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest – I feel a teensy weensy bit better now 🙂
January 30, 2008 at 12:39 pm
Anita
Fingers crossed that everything goes as well as possible.
My baby starts school this year as well, but I couldn’t even anticipate the trepidation you must be feeling…
January 30, 2008 at 12:54 pm
hoping it all goes well. Well, as well as possible. I’m sure school will be a sharp learning curve for all involved and not just a waiting phase for you.
hugs
January 30, 2008 at 8:28 pm
Hoping everything goes well and that your little one settles into school okay.
January 31, 2008 at 12:41 pm
Hope his aide is able to smooth his day out along the way.
Keeping my mouth zipped from past experience lol 😉
January 31, 2008 at 1:29 pm
I hope all goes well, but please don’t be discouraged if he acts out initially. Even kids without aspie have major problems adjusting to school life. Once he settles into a routine, I am sure he will settle down and do well.
January 31, 2008 at 8:29 pm
So how’d he go A ?
January 31, 2008 at 10:19 pm
Smootches. I already know!!!!! Na na nana na!!!!
Anita will let you know as soon as she posts bail.
*snort*
January 31, 2008 at 10:42 pm
I can’t begin to imagine what you are feeling with your son’s aspie in the picture too – I was so anxious when my son started school.
I hope he has a brilliant aide to help him on this journey they call education. I hope he settles in fine and loves school.
February 29, 2008 at 10:06 am
Mine couldn’t poop unless he had something solid under his feet. A stool made all the difference in his stool production