December 2007


to 2007! What a year it’s been. Where does one start – oh I know, I’ll do my 1st ever ‘Christmas’ letter……..

Dear Friends,

The beginning of 2007 saw some major changes about to occur in Boneblower’s World. DH back to work, nothing new there. DS1 starting Grade 1 (2nd year of primary school in Victoria) and DS2 doing a 2nd year of 4yo kinder, 4th year of Early Intervention, 1 day at Childcare and both boys in Speech Therapy. Me, I was about to become a full time student and wasn’t quite sure how the hell everything was going to work.

Everything got under way really well with yours truly having the only real hiccup – how on earth was I going to live in two completely different worlds at the same time? Student vs. wife, mother, daughter, friend, support group facilitator, committee member…………………. OMG – what have I done!!??

Initially I wanted to chuck everything else on the backburner and concentrate on my studies, especially when DH was telling me this was the year to be selfish – words I’m sure he’s sorry ever left his mouth. The content of my dipolma was experential – meaning we got to ‘experience’ most of what we were learning. Lessons about self came fast and furious with not a lot of breathing space in between.

Before I knew it we were in Term 2 and then Term 3 – for them! My course went straight through with 4 weeks off in August which proved to be brilliant timing.  We got one of those 4:30am phone calls on Friday 31st August telling me to get to Monash Hospital as soon as possible to hopefully see my dad for maybe the last time. Thank god for auto pilot when it came to driving that morning! He had a tear in his aorta which needed to be operated on immediately if he had any chance of surviving and even then they weren’t giving us any promises.

After 12 hours on the operating table he was in a drug induced coma for 6 days – they were having trouble bringing him round coz his blood pressure kept going through the roof everytime they tried. Eventually they managed it and a week after that we found out he’s a paraplegic from loss of blood flow to his spine during the surgery.  He’s currently still in a rehab hospital doing well and looking forward to going home when the reno’s at home are completed. He’s in nappies and been told he’ll never walk again but he’s not letting that stop him from trying.

I’ve found it a little harder to concentrate on my studies since then and have quite a few (6) assignments to complete before the end of January. DS1 received an excellent school report for the year and DS2 is ecstatic about starting school in the new year. DH has completed half of his course in Cisco networking and done really well. He has been a god sent this year.

Reflecting back on the year has been hard – remembering all that’s happened (must be getting old), but I suppose the important things are listed. I know I could not have accomplished anything this year without my husbands love, guidance, patience, support and tremendous help.  The highs have been fabulous, the lows have been shit and the somewhere-in-between – where we spent most of our time, has been bearable thank goodness.

Love and best wishes to you and yours,

Boneblower

Don’t ya just love the word BUT. Dr Phil reckons the word but says, ‘I just told you what you want to hear but now I’m going to tell you what I really think’! How true is that. For example:

I’m loving doing this blog but only 1 person is commenting! (Why the hell aren’t they communicating with me.)
I love you but you’re really pissing me off at the moment. (You’re really pissing me off at the moment.)
I think you’re doing the right thing but maybe you could go about it in a different way. (What are you, stupid!)
You look great in that outfit but I like you in the other one better. (You’re not going out in that are you!)

And then there’s the conversational but. “Why on earth are you wearing those undies?!” “Coz they’re all I’ve got.” “They need to go in the bin.” “Yeah I know, I need new ones but we can’t really afford them at the moment.” That’s when you know you’ve been hit by the manipulation but!! And if you’re anything like me you don’t like to be told ‘we can’t afford it’! Sure, it may be true but I’m up for the challenge (translation – don’t tell me what to do)! New undies *mutter mutter* I’ll give you new undies *mutter mutter*……………………..

It seems like a good time of the year to have a look at things that have happened to affect Boneblower’s World over the last 12 months. So in no particular order here we go:

  1. Became a full time student in March.
  2. DS1 went into before & after school care for 3 days a week & coped really well.
  3. DS2 was looked after by one of my girlfriends Tues & Thurs (after kinder) while I was at school. Don’t ‘ohhhh, isn’t she nice’, we paid her and she slept most afternoons!
  4. DH embarked on his own course in the 2nd half of the year (whilst holding down a f/t & permanent casual job).
  5. DS2 had a partial severe language disorder added to his Aspergers, Asthma, bowel & behaviour issues.
  6. We managed to coordinate the household to cope with the changes without totally losing our minds.
  7. The dog seems to have finally got over her need to escape during a storm after she spent a night in the pound and got kennel cough!
  8. On 18th April 2008 I become a fully qualified Transpersonal Art Therapist (counselling thru art). I know, it doesn’t really belong in the achievements for 2007 but it is what I’ve been doing allllllll year!
  9. With the massive extra expenses of studying – we still survived the year. Massive feat!!
  10. We’re all a year older, supposedly wiser and ready to hibernate – oh to be a bear.

All in all a busy year that we managed to get through without killing each other! I wonder what 2008 holds in store for us…………….can’t wait for that one – help!!

What on earth do we do with the leftovers from Christmas? There’s the dog who I’m sure would love the feast, the back of the fridge to become a science experiment or the rubbish bin which seems like such a waste when there’s people in the world without food. Mutti (my mum) recently started her own program on community radio and talked about an easy recipe on Boxing Day for festive leftovers.

Crumble sayo biscuits (by hand) into the bottom of a greased slab pan or quiche dish
Layer your leftovers (veggies, turkey or ham, and anything else you’ve got) on top of the sayos
Add some onion or herbs or sun-dried tomatoes for some extra flavour if you like
Beat 4-6 eggs together with some milk and pour over the top of everything
Sprinkle some grated cheese on top
Bake in a moderate oven for approx. 35 mins
Serve with salad

You can use this recipe with any kind of leftovers and it saves having to make *snigger* pastry. Enjoy!

What a joke! They are only a ‘bargin’ if you planned on getting that wonderful something anyway. If you’re buying it coz it’s on ‘sale’, you’ve spent money you didn’t need to and haven’t ‘saved’ anything. Take my bargain shopping today. If I had bought 2 Christmas trees for DS1 & DS2 on a whim because they were reduced, I wouldn’t have saved anything. But I didn’t. I already knew that’s what I wanted to do so I saved money!! 2 for the price of one!! And then I got decorations for them – all half price, looked at bon-bons for next year (but I don’t think they keep?!?), considered more Christmas cake, shortbread, chocolate elves and realised it’s nearly New Year (not really appropriate now – is it?) and basically could have shopped till I dropped, literally. The Christmas cards are really cheap at the moment too and then I saw a really nice dinner set, how many diary’s does one need…………………………oh what the heck, enjoy the sales – I did 🙂

Don’t ya just love family! I finally got the ‘fall out’ from Christmas day. Picture this: nice peaceful day, first time in about 20 years since I’ve had Mutti (my mum) and Nanna (her mum) to myself on Christmas day without all the Riff-Raff (stepfathers lot), table decorations top class (wanted to spoil them) and a meal of family traditional recipes planned! Do you think that passed muster? Nup. I made Nanna’s pumpkin chiffon pie and sago plum pudding for dessert which neither she nor Mutti had eaten/prepared for years!!! Apparently I need a lesson in how to make pastry! I know how to make bloody pastry! I ran out of time that morning so used the frozen stuff (only ever as a back up – I promise) so the pie was ready in time! Last time I try to please the ungrateful wretch with her own recipes!!

It’s over. Bring on the New Year. I normally love Christmas and hate to see it end but this year I’ve had enough. I was talking to Kelley (magneto bold too – check out her blog, it’s brilliant!) today and we both decided everything needs to be put away. Now. I can’t believe how caught up we get in the festive season only to have it come and go in the blink of an eye. What’s with that?

I don’t know why I want 2008 to get here soooo quickly when DS2 starts school then. My baby’s heading off to school and I’m not ready OMG did I really say that! I was asking for a mid-year intake only a few months back 🙂 But he’s not going to have an easy time of it and I’m not really looking forward to spending so much bloody time in Prep. Been there done that one years ago!

And then there’s the usual dilemma, do we party or stay home for New Years Eve? Easier to have a drink at home, put the kids to bed at the normal time and fall asleep on the couch see in the new year without having to go anywhere! Luckily where we live you can see the fireworks in the surrounding suburbs and they run an earlier session for the kids.  That way we they don’t miss out!

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